a Gentleman or a Chauvinist Pig: Which one are you?
May 17, '07 8:14 AM
Posted by Dani on his multiply blog.
Gentleman - A well-mannered and considerate man with high standards of proper behavior.
It is always nice to hear such a nice word as a compliment, especially when its comes from a lady. A man is sure to be called a gentleman when he gives way for a girl to have a seat in a bus, or when he assists a lady with her luggage, situations like that. Situations where he's being considerate of other people's limited capabilities.
Chauvinism - activity indicative of belief in the superiority of men over women.
On the other hand, it is always not-so-nice to hear comments like you're being a "chauvinist pig" especially when it comes from a lady. A man is sure to be called a chauvinist pig when he gives way for a girl in a queue, or when he assists a lady with her luggage, situations like that. Situations where he's being considerate of other poeple's limited capabilities.
Same situation, different results. (Okay ladies, it always depends on the man's approach.)
Personally though, i think women are making such a big fuss over male domination in this country, while requiring it in many ways at the same time.
For example, women always demands to be treated equally as men, but when you reason out to them the same way they do, they'd call you "pumapatol sa babae."
In the MRT, they are given 1/3 of the cars exclusively for themselves and a few differently-abled people, but they still ride the other cars, which is just fine. But in the other cars, they'd still demand to have the seats and let the men stand.
In reality, women expect men to behave a certain way, the 'gentleman's way.' If one behaves differently, he'd be labeled many names. If a man treats women special, assisting them in every way possible, he'd still be labeled many names.
How should you treat women? Supposedly, the same way you treat men, because men and women have equal rights, or, do they have separate rights? In our case they do.
Hey man, which one are you? Either way, you should behave the other way.
Nothing personal Dani, I would just like to react to this.
Me thinks....
Gentleman: when he gives way for a girl to have a seat in a bus, or when he assists a lady with her luggage, situations like that out of the goodness of his heart.
Chauvinist: when he assists a lady with her luggage because he thinks women are too weak to do such a thing on their own.
There is a difference.
To further elaborate and present a more stark contrast, a chauvinist might keep a woman (maybe his wife) from getting a job because he thinks that women cannot handle heavy workload, etc. Certainly no gentleman would do that.
Of course, women don't always know what men think, or why men act so considerate of other people's limited capabilities, so it IS rather judgmental of us to automatically assume that they help us with our luggage because we're too weak, and thus, think them a chauvinist. And really, we shouldn't, unless he explicitly displays his chauvinist characteristic (i.e., saying "dapat lang ibigay ko 'tong seat na toh kasi mas malakas naman ako kesa sa babae.")
By the way: using the term "limited capabilities" can make a man a chauvinist for its political correctness. Careful.
In other news: May 18 na~ (='.'=)~<3
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